Comments on: 016 The Funeral http://www.visionovervisibility.com/2009/07/05/016-the-funeral/ Using Bono's words to face my Son's death. Thu, 12 Nov 2009 05:02:09 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Michele http://www.visionovervisibility.com/2009/07/05/016-the-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-174 Michele Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:38:40 +0000 http://www.visionovervisibility.com/?p=480#comment-174 john and pam, glad to see you're writing again. it's so good to re-read the words that were shared at ben's funeral. it was a blur for me, too, and i wanted to go back to that sacred moment and hear it again. you are pointing so many of us to Jesus as you allow us to watch and journey with you through your grief. thank you. i hope things went well on the 11th. hope to see you again soon. michele john and pam,

glad to see you’re writing again. it’s so good to re-read the words that were shared at ben’s funeral. it was a blur for me, too, and i wanted to go back to that sacred moment and hear it again. you are pointing so many of us to Jesus as you allow us to watch and journey with you through your grief. thank you.

i hope things went well on the 11th. hope to see you again soon.
michele

]]> By: your mom http://www.visionovervisibility.com/2009/07/05/016-the-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-168 your mom Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:22:24 +0000 http://www.visionovervisibility.com/?p=480#comment-168 Dear Ben, I believe..."What is sown is perishable;what is raised is imperishable. It is sown in dishonor, it is raied in glory. It is sown in weakness; it is raised in power. It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body. Behold! I tell you a mystery. We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trupet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we shall be changed! Thanks be to God who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding the the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain." I Corinthians 15 I love you. Yesterday I saw the two fawns. Are you able to pet the fawns...I can't. One day closer, your grammy. Dear Ben,

I believe…”What is sown is perishable;what is raised is imperishable. It is sown in dishonor, it is raied in glory. It is sown in weakness; it is raised in power. It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body. Behold! I tell you a mystery. We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trupet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we shall be changed! Thanks be to God who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding the the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.” I Corinthians 15

I love you. Yesterday I saw the two fawns. Are you able to pet the fawns…I can’t.
One day closer,
your grammy.

]]> By: Pam http://www.visionovervisibility.com/2009/07/05/016-the-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Pam Mon, 06 Jul 2009 04:12:22 +0000 http://www.visionovervisibility.com/?p=480#comment-165 Looking back I wish I would have asked if I could have taken him out of the casket and held him as our family came to see him. I guess I was trying to be as normal as possible and I didn’t really understand what his body would be like. Would his bones be too fragile to be held? I just didn’t know so I just held his little hand for as long as I could. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him and I didn’t want to let go of his hand because I didn’t want him to feel abandoned. A few years ago it came time to put my dog, Belle, to sleep, John said that I didn’t have to go, that he would take her to the vets. But I wanted to go. I needed to go. I promised her that I would see her through to the end and I did. I held her in my arms, tears pouring all over her, as she went to sleep forever. I’m so glad I was willing to enter the pain. Now, there are no more tears when I remember Belle, only smiles and great memories. I faced Ben’s death the best I knew how. I stayed with him until the very end…until the casket was closed. And though the tears still flow almost everyday, I know that one day there will be no more tears for Ben either, only smiles as each day is one day closer to heaven. Looking back I wish I would have asked if I could have taken him out of the casket and held him as our family came to see him. I guess I was trying to be as normal as possible and I didn’t really understand what his body would be like. Would his bones be too fragile to be held? I just didn’t know so I just held his little hand for as long as I could. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him and I didn’t want to let go of his hand because I didn’t want him to feel abandoned.

A few years ago it came time to put my dog, Belle, to sleep, John said that I didn’t have to go, that he would take her to the vets. But I wanted to go. I needed to go. I promised her that I would see her through to the end and I did. I held her in my arms, tears pouring all over her, as she went to sleep forever.
I’m so glad I was willing to enter the pain. Now, there are no more tears when I remember Belle, only smiles and great memories.

I faced Ben’s death the best I knew how. I stayed with him until the very end…until the casket was closed. And though the tears still flow almost everyday, I know that one day there will be no more tears for Ben either, only smiles as each day is one day closer to heaven.

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